Your child always asks about sex and you are confused how do you answer ? Just thinking about it probably makes you squirm.
Your five year old daughter asks you where babies come from. Your fifteen year old daughter tells you she wants to start taking birth control pills. Your first thought is, “No way!” but then you start thinking about actions and consequences.
Your four-or five-year-old asks, “Where do babies come from?”
Educators call this a “teachable moment,” when children want to learn about something of their own volition. Your child wants to learn something about one of the most wonderful and miraculous events in life. Don’t miss out on the chance to talk about it.
They can understand loving relationships that produced them. The rest will come when they’re older and wiser, and when the hormones kick in.
If your child asks you to explain some aspect of human reproduction, do it right away, and do it using the right words, not slang. Put it in the context of love and relationships. You might think it’s better to wait until your child is in school, where they will teach sex education , but it’s even better if you start their education as soon as they start asking questions.
How to Begin
Very young boys and girls notice that boys have penises and girls have vaginas, and you can teach them the proper names for these vital organs from the beginning.
Children in young families will very likely see their moms or their mom’s friends pregnant.
What an excellent opportunity to talk about the baby inside the mommy’s tummy, how it’s growing, and how it will be born, just as they grew inside their mommy and were born.
If your child asks how babies get into the mommy’s tummy, tell him the truth.
Accept your child’s curiosity about genitalia and reproduction.
Ask her if she knows the proper names for boys’ genitalia and girls’ genitalia. Ask her if she knows why boys and girls are different.
Find books that show the differences and look at them together.
Child with the opposite sex
It’s wrong to minimize, dismiss, or ignore feelings of happiness or sadness your child might have in any boy/girl relationship. Your child may be young, but his feelings are real. These are important matters and an important stage in his social and emotional development.
They matter very much to your child and to his feelings of self-esteem and belonging.
The most important lessons on sexuality for children at this age come from parents. It’s wonderful if you can give your child the support, confidence, and conversation on how best to accept and thrive on strong feelings of affection, even love, for another child.